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Love. It is mysterious and and powerful force that can make us do crazy things. Whether it’s sending flowers, writing poems, or stalking your crush on social media. But what is love really? Like any man, woman, and in-betweener I have thought, nay ached about this question and today of all days I am excited like a puppy with a stick to tell you what I found. So, let’s put Haddaway<\/a> on an endless loop and dive in deep! T’is the season of love and it’s time for another nosy review.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The story of love begins not in some castles as those modern adaptations of Shakesperean epics would make us believe. No, it is a tale far beyond the realms of maidens in beautiful dresses and knights in often not so shining armor. It is one of pair bonding, societal structures and deep looks into mammalian eyes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n When we follow the evolutionary theory of love, it evolved naturally and, as evolution does, over the course of millennia. The reasons for love to spring into existence in the first place and henceforth rattle the cages of stomachy butterflies all around are also not simply about reproduction, but as [Buss et al.] the following functions:<\/p>\n\n\n\n All good reasons that are important in all areas of the animal and human kingdoms. It begs the question if love planned from the start to become the proverbial diva of humanity or if it was surprised by its own success. Be it as it may, love is deeply ingrained into almost every aspect of our (meaning humanity’s) culture.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Even nowadays our cultural and personal views of beauty and thereby attraction shift with what is associated with physical health [Symons 1979, Sugiyama 2005]. The ancient Greeks even went so far and identified six different forms of love, which for a writer is like giving color to an artist [Lidell 2023]:<\/p>\n\n\n\n I can tell you that I didn’t think about the evolutionary reasons for love or the different ways some people in the Aegean called it before I stuck my nose into one and another book. But let’s leave the humdrum theory behind (for now) and focus on what is really important. How do we find a partner and how do we keep that partner once we have them entangled in our mutual web of love? First off, the combination of traits someone perceives as attractive change from person to person, but there are some stables. If you are physically attractive, funny, or better yet witty, have a romantic side and a pinch of excitement with a good chunk of likability, you are in good waters [McDaniel 2005]. As in, you probably don’t need any advice and are just reading this because of the witty and humorous way it is written. But,There is always a but(t)<\/sup> <\/em>for those of us not blessed with the personality and figure of prince\/ss charming, there are some more tips the tomes of science hold. Confidence isn’t everything. While it can help, researchers have also found some advantages to being shy and anxious in the face of the object of one’s desire [Brumbaugh 2010].<\/p>\n\n\n\n And you won’t believe, but niceness or let’s call it friendliness, is also a plus [Felmlee 1995]. Being perceived as nice is in fact one of the best predictors of securing a second date after having had a first one [McDaniel 2005]. Just don’t rely solely on the goodness you carry in your heart, it only takes you so far. Just be nice for niceness sake. Also keep in mind that when it comes to dating, like in so many other areas of life, there are deal-breakers. Those that emerged in a study by Csajb\u00f3k were [Csajb\u00f3k 2022, Csajb\u00f3k 2023]:<\/p>\n\n\n\n So take a bath and calm your mind with a walk, some tea or a cold shower before you approach that special someone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n But also the grounds of established relationships can be treacherous. Traits that first appeared attractive might later have the opposite effect [Felmlee 1995]. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Take jealousy. Some people find it cute and a good expression of love. Some even say that it guards love and is a good indicator that relationships will survive [Mathes 1986]. But high jealousy, while first endearing can turn ugly later on and push couples apart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In this example, like in others it appears that while quirkiness and other interesting appearing character attributes are good to start a relationship, they can turn into so called fatal attractors that push couples apart. [Felmlee 1995].<\/p>\n\n\n\n After I finished with my study into the topic of love, leaned back and thought about how I would find a partner, if I were again in that position, I came to the following conclusion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Be yourself and don’t fret about it.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n Share your excitement about the topics that interest you. Do and be the things that you enjoy and without the need to worry or expend energy, the right people will come into and stay in your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Don’t deny it, we’ve all been there.<\/sup><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\nA history of love<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
I can hardly contain the feeling of deceit! Such preposterousity!<\/sup><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n\n
Looks like no one investigated means for mental health in that context yet. Go, grad students, go!<\/sup><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n\n
Benefits of love<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Still, my drive for love was happily steering me since my teen years. I thought it was only because of sex. And there are good reasons for it. Good, consensual sex makes us happy after all [Cheng 2015]. But I later learned that sex isn’t love, at least not the whole of it.
And while sex can<\/strong> reduce stress, love, real good and true love, does it with the strength a thousand moons [Esch 2005], which puts it right up there next to Xanax, Valium, and who could forget Zoloft.
Disclaimer: Nosy Science does not approve the use of medication without checking in with a proper healthcare professional.<\/sup><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\nTips to find a partner \/ love<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
That is the question!<\/sup><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Big puppy eyes also don’t hurt.<\/sup><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sorry John, you are just too small to enjoy this ride.<\/sup><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n\n
Outro<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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